Quiet quitting has typically been a term referring to checking out at the workplace but couples in marriages or long-term relationships can also quietly quit. It might be one of them or both but regardless, the emotional investment in each other slowly starts to disappear.
Here are 3 signs:
- Less conversations about things that matter.
Your communication may be decreasing overall and when you do talk, conversations are more superficial and avoidant of emotional topics.
2. You start living parallel lives.
You are spending less time together as you pursue separate interests or there are noticeable shifts in social dynamics where one in the relationship is less present, opting to pursue different connections, hobbies or interests. Independence becomes a way to avoid intimacy.
3. An increase in moodiness.
Because quiet quitting is born out of unmet needs, a lack of emotional safety and hopelessness, the inherent unhappiness can shift into loneliness within the relationship. This is a painful place to be, that may reflect in impatience or other signs of emotional distress in one or both partners.
See my full length article on LoveAndLifeToolbox.com, Quiet Quitting in Marriage: When your Spouse is There…but Not.
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