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Stop Feeling Unlovable

Feeling unlovable is a deeply painful emotional experience. It’s a quiet, persistent voice that tells you that you are fundamentally flawed and unworthy of affection, belonging, or love. This feeling can create a profound sense of loneliness, even when you are surrounded by people who care about you.

Unlovability is a feeling, not a fact.

Your belief that you are unlovable is a symptom of past experiences, not a reflection of your inherent worth.

The roots often stem back to your family of origin.

This feeling frequently stems from a lack of emotional safety or unmet needs during your early childhood years.

Healing is possible.

You can work through the pain by understanding the roots to begin with.

Self-compassion is key.

Part of the growth process is being kind to yourself and learning to provide yourself with what you need.

The good news is that you don’t have to live a lifetime feeling unlovable. I help people understand where they developed a core belief that they are unlovable and help them to correct it. If you suspect a sense of unlovability is blocking your movement forward, please reach out to inquire about therapy.

Marin Individual Therapy

Outside of Marin but still in California? Check out my California Online Therapy services.

Not quite ready for therapy but would like feedback and guidance by me? See my online chat Ask Lisa Consultation service on LoveAndLifeToolbox.com.

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Contact me to inquire about scheduling an appointment.

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I’ve had the pleasure of working with Lisa Kift for many years, both in previous clinics and with mutual clients. Lisa is a deeply knowledgeable and skilled therapist who brings insight, empathy, and clarity to her work. She has a strong focus on family-of-origin dynamics and how early experiences shape current relational and emotional patterns. Lisa is an active and engaged clinician—she doesn’t just sit back, but thoughtfully guides her clients through the healing process. I highly recommend working with Lisa at Marin Therapy and Counseling. She is a trusted colleague and a true asset to the field.
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I am a strong believer in therapy and have worked with many therapists for over 20 years but Lisa is by far the best. After working with Lisa for the past 5 years, she has been there for me through some of my highest highs and lowest lows. She helps me take a step back and think about situations or problems with a different lens. She has always supported a cadence that worked best for me, starting with once a week and winding down to once a month. I am so thankful to have found Lisa and would recommend her to anyone!

Lisa Brookes Kift is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #45087
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